#275 What Are Your Boundaries For Success?

Do you have any boundaries set up in your life? If so, what are they? If not, ask yourself: “What’s holding me back from succeeding?”

Who do you surround yourself with?

Let’s say you have a close friend that’s a total degenerate during the week. They’re drinking, smoking, staying up late, and eating like crap. Do you think you should be hanging out with them two or three nights out of the week? Probably not, right?

Do you have people in your life that are holding you back from succeeding?

Everyone has that homie that wants to drink beer on a Tuesday night. Most of the time it’s for no particular reason. I hate to break it to you, but you can’t be successful when you’re drinking every Tuesday and Wednesday night. This is just one of countless examples.

Setting boundaries is key

Let’s say on Wednesday night my family wants to go get tacos. Look, I absolutely love tacos.

So, what do I do?

I’ll look at the menu ahead of time. I need to know exactly what I’m going to get from that restaurant. In this case, the question is, “What can I eat that is not a taco that keeps me within my nutrition guidelines?” If I can’t find something, I won’t go. Simple as that.

I know that this sounds like you don’t want to hang out with your family, but that simply isn’t true. What I am saying is that you must know what your personal pitfalls are. Everyone knows deep down inside of them what those are, but most people just aren’t honest with themselves.

I know myself

I know as soon as I start drinking beer on Friday or Saturday evening that on a scale of 1-10, I’m 9 times out of 10 going to eat a cookie(s).

The key is to have some structure going into your cheat meals. Set a limit on how many beers, cookies, or wings you have. This plays right into with the people you hang out with and the situations you put yourself in.

That’s where the boundaries come in. They must be present, otherwise you’re more likely to fall of the rails. Why put yourself in a compromising position?

What about discipline and willpower?

Your discipline and willpower will improve if you stay consistent. That same discipline and willpower will help you in those random scenarios and situations you find yourself in too. I’m talking about the random family dinner, the night out, traveling on the road, etc.

Consistency and discipline are mandatory for long-term success.

Don’t kill your momentum

Stop making things more difficult on yourself. Stop putting yourself in bad situations where the likelihood of failure is high.

How many times have your friends said, “Oh, you know what? It’s not going to matter. You’ll work that off. You worked hard all week. Don’t worry about it, you’re good.” 

That kind of thinking is dangerous, and potentially can be toxic. And it kills momentum. It’s saying “Hey, you know what? Let me slow you down." That's what it is.

I’m here to help you speed your shit up. Again, it takes consistency and discipline over the long-term to succeed. Set up the boundaries to keep you on the path to success.