#47 Quit Locking in the Loss

Today, we're going to talk about quit locking in the loss.  What do I mean by that?  We all have situations that don’t work out the way you want them to.  It could be a relationship, work, or business.  It’s going to happen to everyone.  IF you lock in that loss or lock in that feeling, it’s going to hinder your overall progress.

MusclePharm

I poured my heart and soul into my old business, MusclePharm.  For years I gave it every ounce I had.  Guess what?  It didn’t end the way I wanted it to.  What would have happened if I locked in the negative feelings of feeling sorry for myself?  Simply put, I would have never been as successful.

Sitting Down with Arnold

A few months after Arnold left, I was fortunate enough to sit down and have breakfast with him.  Here’s what he said to me: "It's all about how you stand up. It's all about what you do next.  It's all about moving forward with the proper confidence.  It's all about, you know your skills and your ability.  A lot of things don't work out the way you want them to."

Succumbing to these harmful feelings would have hindered everything I had done past that point.  Instead, I said, "Boom, this was a part of my life.  Now it’s over.  It's a hard stop."  I’ll take what I learned, I’ll take what I know, and I’ll keep it moving. 

With Everything

This goes for everything in your life.  If you lock in that loss, you lock in that feeling, you lock in whatever it was, then it's just going to keep you from being the next better version of yourself to change the things you want.  It's just what it is. 

People think so much about why something didn’t work, or why it should have worked, and then they continue to carry that every day.  If you operate that way, it’s going to limit the ceiling.  You’re putting a ceiling on yourself.

Move Forward

You have to take forward what you learned, and then say, "Now I have a new confidence.  I'm going to build towards something else."  It's all about how you stand up.  It's all about how you lock in on the new path.  Just understand that everyone goes through these things.  Everyone has the loss.  It's only a true loss or failure if you lock it in, and if you quit.  

There must be a hard stop if there’s something that you’re hanging onto.  You have to start fresh.  You have to say, "Okay, this is what I learned, and I'm going to keep it moving."  Like Arnold said, "It's all about how you stand up the next day, once you go through something to that extreme.  It's all about what you build from that point on.  It's all about what you learn."  That is the process of life. It's just the way it is.